CATHOLIC HOME LIFE

"There was a marriage in Cana of Galilee, and the mother of Jesus was there. And Jesus also was invited and his disciples to the marriage." 1

 The Catholic Home. The first miracle that Our Lord worked was at the marriage ceremony in Cana of Galilee. He graced the occasion by His Presence to show that marriage was pleasing to God and one of the high states of life to which men and women are called. Even more than by His Presence', by His teaching He has raised the married state to the high level of the Catholic home. In no other religion has the married state been so sanctified and honored as by the Catholic religion. Nor do you find women. the wives and mothers, of our race so dignified as in the Catholic home.

 The Ideal Home. Catholics look to Nazareth to find the model upon which to rest their own home life. There they see Joseph as the head of the family guiding and supporting it. Mary the mother, finds her chief work centered in her Son. Nothing else can distract her from this first and supreme duty. while that Son gives example of perfect obedience to His mother. "He was subject to them" Sacred Scripture says. All three find the home the center of their affections and joy. The picture that Jesus. Mary and Joseph present in their village home has been the inspiration of all good Catholic fathers and mothers.   1 St. John II, 1-2.

The Marriage Feast of Cana

Our Lord was present with His Mother at the marriage feast in order that He might bless the marriage with His presence.  He has raised Matrimony to the high mark of a Sacrament to give it His blessing.               What miracle did Jesus perform here ?

The Catholic Home is Founded on a Sacrament. Our Divine Lord not only gives us the words of eternal life and the graces necessary for its attainment, but He also reaches His beneficent hand into the concerns of our every-day life and founds the Catholic home. He does this by establishing the Sacrament of Matrimony as its foundation. In the beginning God instituted marriage between one man and one woman.

"God said, it is not good for man to be alone; let us make him a kelp like unto himself." And the Lord God built the rib which He took from Adam into a woman, and brought her to Adams. And Adam said: 'This now is bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called woman, because she was taken out of man. Wherefore a man shall leave father and mother and shall cleave to his wife and they shall be two in One flesh'"  2                             2 Gen. 11, 18, 22-24.

As time went on the ideal of marriage woman was lost, and Moses permitted the Jews to have divorce on account of the hardness of their hearts. Our Lord, however, restored it to its former state of the marriage between one man and woman and made it one of the Seven Sacraments "Moses Imposes by reason of the hardness of your heart, permitted you to put away your wives; but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, that whosoever shall put away his wife, and shall marry another, ccommitteth adultry.'' 3

The Spiritual Union that exists between Christ and His Church is proposed as an example for married people, as is evident from St. Paul's words to his converts at Ephesus: as bias the Church is subject to Christ, so also let the wives be to their husbands in all things. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ also loved the Church, and delivered Himself up for it.  

A Catholic Marriage is unbreakable, "What God hath joined together, let no man put asunder."

 Matrimony. {Matrimony is a Sacrament instituted by Christ by which two single persons, man and woman, are married to each other and receive grace from God to discharge the duties of their state faithfully.} In contrast to the other Sacraments. the ministers of this Sacrament are the contracting parties themselves. The priest is the lawful witness. A marriage to be legal and valid (i. e., according to law and true) must be performed before the pastor, or another priest authorized by him, and two witnesses. Before these witnesses the contracting parties declare that they take one another for lawful husband and wife. The words that the man and woman say are as follows allows : I (name). take thee for my lawful wife (husband) to have and to , from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer. for poorer. in sickness and in health, until death do us part." These are the words that bind them in marriage. Then the priest blesses them and says: I join you together in marriage. in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Ghost " 5

3 St. Matthew XIX, 8-a    4 Ephesians V 24-25.      5 Roman Ritual.

Catholics who attempt marriage before a, judge or a minister sacrifice the English nation; for Henry withdrew the English nation from its Catholic faith with retaliation.  Sometimes  what apppears to be divorces are granted by the Church. She permits two people who are married to separate. Now a separation is not a divorce. When the Church permits married people to separate, they are not free to marry somebody else  as long as the partner of their marriage is alive. A divorce is different from this. By a divorce the State grants permission to the partners of a marriage to separate with the privilege of remarrying. Besides separations, the Church sometimes permits people who seemingly were married to separate with the privilege of remarrying. These are not divorces; for some reason it has been discovered that they were never really and properly  married at the time that they went through the ceremony. In such cases the Church declares that both parties are free to marry somebody else. Take for instance, a case like this. Suppose some man were to fool the priest and the woman.He might   pretend that he had never been married before, though he has a wife in a distant place. Now that man was already married and so could not marry again. When the fraud is detected later on, the Church declares that what everybody thought was a, marriage never really took place and so the woman in free to marry somebody else.

 The Church Laws About Marriage. Since matrimony is a Sacrament the Church has a perfect right to make laws regulating the marriage contract. These laws are of various kinds. The pastor should be consulted about them before marriage in order that the interest of the parties be safe-guarded. However, we may breiefly indicate some of them.

The marriage must be performed before a priest and two witnesses. There are some things which may hinder or prevent the marriage or make it sinful to marry under certain conditions. These hindrances are called impediments. There are some annulling impediments. Some of the impediments are : A Catholic cannot marry an unbaptized person, nor cousins within the third degree of blood relationship, nor their sponsors in baptism. A Catholic cannot marry a person already married with the other partner living. Besides impediments to marriage the Church requires that the banns of marriage, that is, the announcement of the forthcoming marriage, be made at least three times. Now the rigor of some of these laws may be lessened in individual cases through a dispensation granted by the Bishop. This dispensation is not to be had for the mere asking. There must be good and just reasons before the dispensation is granted.

 Mixed Marriages. This is a marriage between a Catholic and a non-catholic. These marriages may not take place without a dispensation from the Bishop. The dispensation is granted only when the non-catholic party signs a promise to have the children brought up Catholics, and not to interfere! with the religious faith and worship of the Catholic party. Even a mixed marriage must be in the presence of the pastor' and two witnesses, and no non-catholic ceremony is allowed to precede or follow it.

 

Marriages of this kind are discouraged by the Church. Sad experience has shown that very often the children of these marriages are badly instructed or instructed not at all in their faith. These marriages, too, turn out unhappily very often, for they lend themselves easily to quarrels about the differences of faith. Moreover, it is extremely difficult for a Protestant mother to raise her children in the Catholic faith with which she is out of sympathy, and about which she knows little or nothing.

 Duties of the Married State. These duties are of more immediate interest to people about to contract marriage than for you. Yet Christian marriage, includes ideals so sublime that they make edifying reading and study. Catholics who are about to marry should have for one another a high and mutual love modeled on the love that Christ has for His Church. To practice such a love insures that they are going to live in peace and contentment throughout their married life. Their state, moreover, offers them an unexampled opportunity to edify each other by leading a holy life. Many souls are in heaven to-day led there by the example of a holy wife or husband. They should cooperate in bringing their children up in the fear and love of God. This in itself if well done practically assures their own salvation. St. Jane Frances de Chantal was a model wife and St. Francis Borgia offers an example of a model husband.

 Before Marriage. Enough has been written to show that the married state is a. sublime one. It is also vocation of most people. Since it is a permament state which lasts until terminated by death, one should naturally consider long and seriously its obligations and duties before entering it. Here, if anywhere, haste is out of place . As a Bishop would not think of ordaining a man to the priesthood who had no preparation, neither should any cane enter marriage without carefully considering his or her prospective companion. Many a wrecked home could have been easily avoided if the parties interested had been less hasty and more serious in preparation.Parents who have had long and useful experience in this state should not be lightly ignored.  Their advice, founded as it is on reason rather than emotion will save a heartache.

Marriage is usually preceded by a period known as the courtship.This should neither be too long nor too short. It is during the courtship period that we may lay the foundation for in- numerable graces in after life if that courtship is marked by the chastity, modesty and good behavior expected good Catholics. A courtship in accordance with the wishes of Our,  leading as it does to a state blessed Him will evitably bring God's blessings on the married life.

THE HOLY FAMILY AT NAZARETH. 

The Holy Family is the model for every Catholic home. The boy Jesus, bears on his shoulders the square and the ruler.                What do they sugest ?

The Christian Family. One of the greatest blessings the world knows is the Christian family. It has been founded on a Sacrament and is blessed by Christ. Matrimony gives sanctifying grace and besides, it grants the right to the contracting parties to expect and ask for very special blessings and graces from God throughout life. The husband and wife of a Christian family have a sacred vocation, and a noble place in the world. To insure that the family should fulfill
all that this sacred vocation calls for, each one ought to approach the nuptial altar fortified by the Eucharist and with a heart uttering a prayer to the giver of all good gifts. If the home is founded on Christ and inspired by His ideals then happiness will reign there.

QUESTIONS ?

 Why did Our Lord appear at he marriage feast at Cana ?

What has been the effect of Our Lord's teaching on marriage and woman ?

 Where do Catholics look for the model home ? Describe the home.

 Upon what is the Catholic founded ?

What does God say about marriage in the Book of Genesis ?

What privilege did Moses permit the Jews with regards to marriage ?

How did Our Lord restore marriage to its first state ?

What does Our Lord say about divorce To what spiritual union is the Sacrament of Matrimony likened by St. Paul ?.

 Define the Sacramaent of Marriage ?

Who administers this Sacrament ?

What is the priest's positition at a marriage ?

What must be observed to make a marriage legal and binding ?

What are the words the contracting partners say which bind them in matrimony ?

What do you understand by a valid mariage ?

An invalid marriage ?

What is to be thought of the marriage of Cactholic before a judge ?

Before a minister ?

What is the best way to get married ?  Why ?

What special penalty is there for attempting marriage before a non-catholic minister ?

 Why cannot the bond of matrimony be broken ?

What is to be thought about a civil divorce ?

What sacrifice has the Catholic Church made in the past in her stand against divorce ?

What kind of separations are granted at times by the Church ?

Upon what condition does the Church grant a separation ?                                            

When does the Church appear to grant a divorce

                                                                                                                                  22 What is the Church"s Commandment about marriage. Why ?

What has the Church the right to make laws about matrimony ?

What are some of the Church laws bout marriage ? Define an impediment..

How may the rigor of some of these laws be sofened ?                                          

 What are mixed marriages ? When only may a mixed a mrriage take place ?

What promises must the non-Catholic make before a dispenssation is granted ? In general what are we to think of mixed marriages. ? What are duties of those in the married state. ?

Recalling the words they utter at their mariage whap promises do the bride and groom make   to each other. ?

Why should one consider long and seriously before entering matrimony?  With whom should those about to marry consult ? How should the courtship be conducted ?

 Why is the Christian family one of the world's greaten: blessings? What kind of grace does the Sacrament of Matrimony confer ?

STUDY TOPICS:

II. Have some member of the class who has witnessed one, describe a nuptial mass.

IV. Catholics consider matrimony a holy vocation. Explain in a short paragraph.

III Write a short composition on this topic: "The Holy Family the Model of a Catholic Home."

IV. Read St. John, Chap. II. and write a description of the marriage feast at Cana.

V. Draw up a list of reasons showing why divorce is One of the great evils of modern times.

SUGGESTED READINGS

I. SACRED SCRIPTURE:

a) St. John II -12, Marriage Feast at Cana, b) St. Mark X, 2-12, Our Lord's Teaching on Divorce.

c) Ephesians V, 22-33, St. Paul compares the union of husband and wife with union of Christ and His Church.

II. OTHER BOOKS:

Doyle, S.J., Rev. Francis X.-The Wonderful Sacraments, The Seventh Sac..,

lament: Matrimony.

Scott, S.J., Rev. Martin J.-You and Yours. An excellent book to read about the home. Chapters XI and XII, On Courtship.

Scott, S.J., Rev. Martin J .--Things Catholics Are Asked About, Chapter

XXIII, Marriage ; XXIV, The Church and Divorce ; XXV, Marriage and

Annulment ; XXVI) Marriage and Separation.

Scott, S.J:, Rev. Martin J.-The Hand of God, Chapter XX, Divorce and Remarriage

Scott, S.J., Rev. Martin J.-Religion and Common Sense, Chapter X, Marriage

 

 

 

    1. Goes to Mount Olivet.
    2. Begins to pray
    3. Fall sweats blood
    4. Betrayed by Judas
    5. Is captured and taken to Annas
    6. Falsely accused by Annas
    7. Brought to Caiaphas and there denied by Peter
    8. Forgives Peter
    9. Brought to Pilate
    10. Is taken to Herod and mocked
    11. Is taken to Pilate and mocked again
    12. Is shamefully exposed
    13. Is cruelly scourged
    14. Is crowned by thorns
    15. Declared innocent by Pilate
    16. Shown to the people by Pilate with the words "Ecce Homo"
    17. Mocked and spat upon
    18. Rejected in favor of Barrabas and condemned to crucifixion
    19. Carries the cross to Calvary
    20. Meets His Mother and other women
    21. Is nailed to the cross
    22. Is raised on the cross
    23. Sheds blood from His five wounds
    24. Sees His afflicted Mother at the cross
    25. Prays on the cross for men
    26. Says the seven words
    27. Gives up His spirit and dies
    28. His soul descends to Limbo
    29. Is acknowledged as the Son of God by many bystanders
    30. Is laid in the sepulchre
    31. Is anointed by pious women
    32. Arises from the dead
    33. Appears to His Mother and disciples
    34. Teaches for forty days
    35. Takes leave of His disciples and ascends to Heaven
    36. Sends down the "Holy Ghost"
    37. Sends the apostles into the whole world to teach the Gospel

 

 

 

 

 

 

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